I have fallen for a guy and I don't know if he feels the same way about me. He was in love with his ex girlfriend, he says it was his 'first love' and they lived together for a while. I haven't been in love before and don't know whether I am just a rebound or he actually likes me. He tells me he is over his ex, and that I am so much better than her in every way possible but I can't help but feel insecure. Sometimes he talks about her, and apologises and this makes me feel he still likes her.

I think he still can't forget the good times he shared with her and is basically take his memory back to those good times, instead of focusing on the reality, that there relationship didn't work out and he now needs to move on.  He will also feel an attachment to her.  It's like spending your younger life with your brother or sister and then they go and live in Australia and you'll never see them for years, you seriously miss them and wished they lived round the corner or that you could move and live near them but you know it's not possible.  It's just difficult someone being part of your life one moment and then totally disappearing out of it the next moment.

He keeps in contact with her and says she still likes him, but he doesn't like her.

In his dreams, if she still liked him, they would be together. 

She is pregnant with another man and I have spoke to her and she says he just wants him to be happy with me. I don't know where I stand! He has told me he is starting to have feelings for me similar to the ones he had with his ex, and that I need to believe that he likes me.

He shouldn't be verbally comparing you to his ex.  A guy does compare all women that he goes out with with ex-girlfriends but those comparisons usually take place in his head, not verbally and to the person he is now having a relationship with.  That is just wrong, because by comparing you to her verbally and constantly talking about her, is bound to make you insecure and wonder whether he is going to run back to his ex, but also wonder whether he is going to go on about his ex for the rest of your relationship.  It also brings into my mind, is he using you to make his ex feel jealous, but you must understand I'm only speculating there.

He says he would never get back with her because she cheated and he has 'been there got the t-shirt'.

People would say that to save face.  But realistically, I don't think he would get back with her, she is now pregnant with someone else's child, which is very unglamorous, she also cheated on him and to be honest, even if he wanted her back, I doubt she would take him back, unless she was desperate.  I say that because she is pregnant with someone elses child and she can't have liked him enough anyway to be unfaithful to him.

But im so confused because as much as I want to believe this in the back of my mind I constantly worry I am a rebound. He has known me for a long while and has never pushed me into anything. He is very respectful and doesn't want to rush me. Does he genuninly like me? Please help im going out of my mind and want to move on if he doesn't want me how I want him.

This guy is stuck with the good memories of his last relationship.  I'm not so sure that he wants to get back with her in her current situation, but he is more suffering the trauma of the split and remembering the good times they had together.  That must be impossible for you, because you want a guy that is going to take care of you and look after you, he can't do that if he's got another woman on his mind constantly.

In my opinion you can't have another relationship with someone if they can't get over your last relationship, you can try your best but I think it will be difficult.  If you are together in 20 years time, you will still remember those early days where he kept going on about his ex-girlfriend and they will be unhappy memories.  I must point out this is only my opinion but I think you should move on.  But I would guess eventually you will get bored of him going on about his ex-girlfriend and sick of being insecure about it.

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