| He's a young father and I just want to have some fun |
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| Written by J | |
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I'm a 22 year old girl not really looking for a serious relationship but just want to have some fun.
I find it very funny when women say they want to use a guy for sex. They say "I just want to have some fun". Whereas a guy would say "I just want to use her for sex or for a shag". It does suit a woman making politer phrases and using coded language, but it still makes me laugh the massive difference between how women word anything about sex and how men just get straight to the point without any coded language. I met a guy, he's working in a bar where I always go in the weekends. He's a young father and he is the typical macho man and too good to be true. I really don't recommend you go messing around with young fathers that are in relationships. It is like breaking up a family, if he had broken up with his girlfriend/wife then I could understand. It may seem like fun, but basically you could ruin the life of a child, ruin the life of his girlfriend/wife, ruin his life if his relationship breaks up and ruin your own life because you may get attached to him (even though you are only in it for fun at the moment). Things that seem fun like this, you will look back when your older and be really ashamed that you did it. If you had said to me, that you wanted to have some fun with a single guy, that works in the bar, then I would have said go for it and even a guy that is in a relationship I would have said go for it. But it's the "young father" bit that really starts to ring alarm bells in my head. First weeks we were just having some eye contact but now 2 months later he's all over me every night. That's what makes it difficult for you, you see this guy flirts constantly with you and you will become obsessed with trying to get off with him. It's going to be very difficult for you to resist but I think you need to be strong and either carry on enjoying the flirting without taking it further or find someone else to give you that extra fun (someone who isn't a young father). My problem is that he only touches me but he always avoids kissing or anything more. After work he always goes straight home and he leaves me every night wondering if he wants it as bad as me. Yes, he probably does want it badder than you, but does he want to risk his relationship? Does he want to make a spontaneous mistake and end up having an affair that is nothing more than a sexual fling? I think he will struggle to wrestle with his conscience. If he does make the mistake, I think you will be more than wanting a bit of fun with him, you will eventually move to the point where you want a full on relationship with him and he may not be able to provide that if he has a partner and child. Sorry, but in my opinion it will be best for you, him and his partner and child if nothing happened. |
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