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The obvious sign that he is interested in you is whether his first lines of
communication is a chat up line or an attempt at humour. He is obviously
trying to impress you with his wicked sense of humour, not realising that
women tend to hate chat up lines and male humour. His voice will be
enthusiastic and not low and depressed. Men quite often sound as though they
are making a forced, instinctive comment maybe because they are nervous or
because they are keen to impress you.
Signs to look out for is whether his feet are pointing towards you, this shows
he is paying close attention to you and is not desperate to walk away.
Whether he remembers things about what you said 10 minutes ago, if he is
repeating a question that you have already answered, then he wasn't paying
attention. A good sign is if he is asking you to elaborate on what you have
just said, basically asking you to disclose a bit more information. The
majority of men are not particularly good at talking, so what you will be
looking out for is whether he is listening to you. In general, men don't
bother with conversation unless they feel they are going to get some benefit
out of it. These rules are thrown out when you are in a nightclub or disco
though, because you can't hear a word anyone says when there is loud music.
It's close to impossible to have any form of conversation in a nightclub.
Quite a few men are so bad at talking, you will barely get any words out of
him at all. This is particularly the case if he is standing in a group.
However you can still look for signs even though he is not talking. He will be
focused on you but will be fiddling with his tie. Instead of talking he will
exaggerate his laugh, particularly if you say something remotely funny. He
will touch his ear lobes to signify he is listening intensely to what you are
saying. He will thrust his chest, shoulders and arms out to make himself look
more manly.
The less shy men will be trying to touch you on the arm or back whenever they
get the chance. Men rarely touch women unless they find them attractive.
It is possible that some men might not find you attractive at first and if he
doesn't find you attractive he will not approach you. Therefore you must
approach him and attract his attention. You only have to engage in some brief
conversation and if that conversation goes well and progresses onto a
conversation that he enjoys, he will begin to warm to you. Men like women who
are warm and caring and he will be proud of the fact that you thought he was
worth talking to. He will gradually move from a closed position turned away
from you, folded arms and defensive, and trying to run away, to an open
position pointing towards you and listening intensely.
There are things that probably happen so fast you won't notice and they
include licking the lips, touching the neck and face briefly, dilated pupils.
When he is talking to you he will often rotate looking at your eyes, hair and
lips and depending on what you are wearing he will also look briefly at your
legs and boobs. Sometimes he will mentally try his best not to look at your
boobs, but his brain will not be able to resist at least a few brief glimpses.
Mirroring is a very strong bond between you both. Mirroring basically means
making the same or similar movements to the other person. For example you
cross your legs then he crosses his legs. There is often a delay of maybe up
to a few minutes and he won't mirror everything you do but should mirror most
things. It is said that if you are not mirroring what the other person does
within 15 minutes then you are not really connecting. If the guy is doing the
opposite to mirroring then there is obviously no connection at all. I must
also point out that mirroring is not just doing exactly the same things as
you, it can be similar movements. So if you swing your hands, he probably
won't swing them in exactly the same way but will make a similar hand movement
just after you.
Negative body language includes covering his face with his hands, tapping or
fiddling violently with objects (rather than caressing an object), playing
with his finger nails, looking over your shoulder at someone else, staring
into open space when you are talking. Conversation wise he will be giving
short and sharp answers to questions and pointing his feet away like he is
trying to run away.
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