I am
overweight and can't seem to attract men!
No, you have got it totally wrong. What you mean is that you
are overweight so you lack self confidence and you think men don’t find you
attractive.
First of all sorry for using the terms "overweight women" and "overweight
girlfriend", I have to get my point across, I don't particularly like those
terms!
Well some men find overweight women more attractive. I know three of my friends
that like overweight women. One has being going out with an overweight
girlfriend for a year and a half. The other is a bit of a typical man and goes
from one woman to another but most of them are overweight women. And the other
goes for a mixture of both. And in my case I would say I was less likely to go
out with an overweight women, but I probably would if they demonstrated to me
they were my type of woman.
If I focus on the friend that has been going out with an overweight girlfriend
for over a year. What is it about her that he finds attractive? Well her hair is
always perfect, always styled in a way that suits her. She wears clothes that
suit her and that make her look less overweight than she is. But most important
of all, is her personality. She has a confident, funny personality and a great
sense of humour. Add all those together and that is why my friend is still going
out with her and that’s why she had many boyfriends before my friend.
So yes you may be a lot more healthy and feel a lot better if you lost weight
but don’t try and tell anyone that the reason you can’t find a man is because
you are fat. You need to do something about it. Whether it be lose weight, get a
better hair style, improve your self confidence, bring your personality alive,
wear clothes that suit you. Many men don’t actually realise it but a man can
actually find a woman attractive based on their personality alone. He can
actually head towards a group of women and think one of the slimmer alternatives
is ideal. After talking to her, he gets a bad aura from her and then starts
chatting to one of her more overweight friends and finds that her personality is
amazing and gradually blocks out the fact that she may be a bit overweight.
While losing weight might be the best long term alternative, don’t presume that
because you are overweight men find you unattractive. You may get more knock
backs as a result of being overweight, but it could be that the knock backs are
as a result of your lack of self confidence.
