Why do men
like porn and what are wet dreams?
The majority (but not all) of men absolutely love porn. They
certainly won't admit they like it to women or in public because it is still
perceived as shameful. They are scared that a woman will dump them if they admit
that they like porn. This is one of the things where men just dare not tell the
truth, even if they are usually an honest man. It is therefore usually a very
awkward subject to bring up with your boyfriend. The best way to approach it is
if you also like porn, show him some of your favourite porn. Then ask him if he
likes porn, he is then more likely to give you an honest answer. There are some
men that don't like porn or haven't seen porn but I can certainly say they are
in the minority.
I tend to flirt between two views of porn. Some days I think I wish it did not
exist and then it would not be so tempting because it can become an addictive
drug. I also think that it gives men an unrealistic view of women and puts too
much expectations on girlfriends to perform certain fantasies for men.
Other days I think it is a very good thing to have, when you consider mans
problems with hormones. Men have very high levels of testosterone and find it
very difficult to control their sexual desires. Porn basically gives them the
ability to release these hormones without harming women. The build up of
hormones in a mans body can be compared with a Champagne bottle with a loose
cork, that is being shaken vigourously, the pressure builds up to the extent
where the cork has to pop at some point. So the good side of porn is that it
enables men to see the fantasies that he is never going to be able to perform
and also relieve a man when he is not getting any sex.
When men don't view porn they end up having wet dreams, for some reason that
sperm just has to leave the body somehow whether it is through having a wet
dream, through masturbation or through sex. I can't stand wet dreams because you
wake up in the middle of the night sweaty, with wet clothes and wet sheets. In
the middle of the night you usually have to change sheets, wash yourself, change
clothes, have a drink of water, urinate to get rid of the sperm still stuck
inside your tubes (otherwise we end up with an infection). Then it's difficult
to get back to sleep and you wake up in the morning with something close to a
hangover. And when you experience this anywhere from once a week to once every
two weeks it becomes very irritating.
Has a man ever been very adventurous in bed. He has done something that you
absolutely loved or absolutely hated. Well he more than likely learnt this from
a porn video. Porn teaches men to be a bit more adventurous in bed. It gives him
some experience of seeing different positions and trying different fantasies. In
most cases this will benefit you because the more different things he tries on
you, the more likely he will find something that gives you a heavenly orgasm.
The problem is that much of the porn he sees is made for a mans satisfaction so
he is equally more likely to do things you absolutely hate. But you can make it
known to him that you don't like it and he can then move onto the next
alternative. The problem is, he sees women in these porn videos have fake
orgasms and looking as though they are actually enjoying what is happening.
Whether female porn stars actually enjoy what they are doing, I can't answer!
But he is more than likely to pick up bad habits as well as good habits. This is
not a bad thing because you can just make sure he knows not to do the bad things
and performs the good things instead.
Then there are the health issues. Often when I have gone too long without
getting the sperm out of my body, I have ended up with epididymitis or urine
infections. Most probably caused by old sperm dying inside my tubes and clogging
the insides. (Sperm dies after so long and that is probably the reason why we
get the urge to get it out of our bodies every so often). The other reason is
much more serious because it is said that a man who is sexually inactive has an
increased chance of getting Prostate and testicular Cancer.
Another debatable reason men put forward for porn is that the penis is a muscle
and that muscle needs to be exercised ready for pleasing women. Whether
exercising it on a regular basis makes a difference I don't know?
One last word of advice is, don't ask to view his porn unless you are open
minded and ready for a shock. Male porn is far different to porn targeted at
females. Men have different minds to women and that is reflected in the type of
porn they like. Male porn does not usually have any storyline and is usually
quite aggressive and roar sex (from a womans point of view). But if you want you
can show him your porn, and if you masturbate as well don't be ashamed of him
finding out. In most cases men find it a turn on if they find out women
masturbate, he might even ask to watch you. Let's face it, men have to hide the
fact that we masturbate, if he finds out you do as well, it will be a relief to
him.
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